I'd never have guessed there's a topic like this, as I've never read in this room before.
As this seems to be so extraordinary: I am a gay man. And I've been to the last 7 Wacken festivals with my husband ( OK, we only married November 2015, but we've been together and together at Wacken before.)
We are openly gay. This doesn't mean we'd behave in very strange gay ways ( is it we should?
) , but it means, you may already have seen us holding hands while watching a great performance, like Dimmu this year, or kissing each other at Knorkator to "Wir werden alle sterben" - or shouting loudly "Schatz" ( this is "darling" ) from a distance to each other to get the attention of the beloved at some random nice band when we get out of touch.
We don't look gay ( concerning common prejudices) of course (most gays don't btw) . But there is no doubt we +behave+ gay at times.
I've never ever experienced +as+ much as even a weird look by *anybody* during all these years. So I would have +always+ voted for the Metal scene to be +as+ gay-friendly as you can imagine.
Maybe to the wrong.
If you are scared to come-out to your own metal friends, my personal vote would thus always be: "Just do it."
Actually we are in a camp with heterosexuals, and we have always been out to them. At times they even become cuddly and teasy when we are very drunk. Never ever have I heard a single unfriendly word - OK, we got our fair share of random gay jokes, but this is very much OK with me.
So: I hope you find some courage in your heart to come out to your metal friends soon - it won't hurt so much.
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I just wanted to comment on a few things you wrote. "...will never become kvlt and grim because of this" 