I rarely wear band shirts these days. My hair is sorta long, that's the only metalish look about me. Most of my bandshirts are old, and when I wear them to concerts I always get a few comments/compliments. I cut my hair a year ago to please my wife. I regret that now, even though she was so moved by the fact that I did it for her. I have not cut it again since.
I had my hair cut in the past too. Only because I wanted a change
I let it grow now again... for the same reason I guess. Anyways, for a girl long hair is not really a necessary "metal- assesoir". At least not as for guys.
I mostly wear black stuff still, but that's it. And I actually have a coat, but I don't always wear it... still coats are kickass
and boots of course (boots are my favourites).
But me as a girl I have always the problem to be considered being a goth. For the ignorant world outside there is no such as female metalheads. Black wearing women are goths
(though I don't even use any make up)
When I went in there the first time, I didn't know. I jumped in and it was like brainfreeze! 
