well, I think the matter of people not taking abortion where is would be necessary is a big part of the problem.
It's not about less than perfect conditions. And a child doesn't have the chance at all to choose what to make out of your life. You can think like that because you had a good living condition. But there are so many children growing up under so terrible conditions that 1. they develope a personality with which they can't become happy 2. They are born into a vicious cirlce of living standards that they can't escape of (it's no conincidence, that poor people are mostly on Hauptschule).
And yes, they do have a right to choose. It's their body. And having sex is not a "mistake". Getting pregnant if you don't want to is an accident. And she is dealing with the consequences anyways, since an abortion is also something hunting you for your life. Btw. do you think it's fair that so many men run away from their girls when they become pregnant and the girl is not able to decide she wants to "run away"?
true, I haven't had to personally deal with it... but I've seen it. not specifically with adopted kids or anything like that, but I have friends that live in bad conditions, and I've seen how it's affected them.
one of them has nearly been killed BY their parents... when he turned 18, his parents kicked him out of the house, and he was homeless for awhile before one of our mutual friends let him stay with him. another friend is mine living in a house that I only visited once, because it felt horrible to me just sitting there. the dad was talking to my friend's brother about nukes, and other things that were just horrible... and finding them amusing. the same friend's brother has actually MADE bombs himself. that friend's now addicted to smoking, and they all [in that house] have HUGE temper issues.
soooo you can't just assume that I've only known the good side of life, because I haven't. I've watched what can happen when you're not raised correctly, and I've studied it in psychology.
and I have actually been personally affected by parents that don't treat you right, which will most likely follow me for the rest of my life.
but even if a child has to endure situations like this, it NEVER means they shouldn't have lived. life is only what you make of it... some start off better than others, but where you finish depends on what you do with what little you do have.
imo having sex before marriage is a mistake... but that's not the point.
getting pregnant may be an accident, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't face the consequences. and yes, they will anyway, but as I just said, I don't think you should have the option of what your consequences will be.
and of course that's not fair, and stuff like that does happen. still doesn't mean abortion's ever a better option... just maybe easier.